I am chunky. That is the term I’ve given myself since I have
found that since I was a little girl that I have been too large to be
considered small and too small to be really accepted by the big girl community.
I dreamed to be thin. I had perfected the art of “poking in” my pouch since the
age of eight. My beautiful, plus-sized and perfectly round aunt would say “Darice
you will never be skinny. But hey, look at me, I’m fat and I’m happy." Those
words only seemed to terrify me further. My mother would console me by saying
that I would thin out as I got taller but that didn’t happen. I have a short frame,
large breast, and a round face and tummy. I struggled with my weight throughout my
childhood and even now. I was always considered cute but not just not the right
type when it came to guys. It was almost like the guys at school were ashamed
to talk to me. I had all but completely
lost my confidence when I found a guy, out of school, who liked me. He REALLY
liked me and was proud to show me off in public. But I began to notice little
things about him soon. He always wanted to feed me. I can only really remember
one date that didn’t include going out to eat. One day we were leaving the
Starbucks where he worked and after he had convinced me that I needed a 550
calorie Caramel Frappuccino I joked “you would think you wanted to get me fat.”
But he did. He replied “You would just be perfect if you gained about 20 more
pounds.” And that cycle continued for me. Too fat, too small. Too fat, too
small.
Society has taught us that in order to be accepted you must
be conventionally beautiful; that you must be tall, slender, and without
noticeable flaws. More recently it has become popular to be considered “thick”-having
and unnaturally small waist with large breast and an even larger behind. Larger
women who are a little more round in the middle are starting to finally be
accepted as well. It was great that “Homeland” featured a partially nude plus
sized woman during their sex scene. & while I would have preferred that
they didn’t choose to have Quinn sober in the scene, further perpetuating the
stereotype that larger women are only sexy when intoxicated, they redeemed themselves
when Quinn not only took the woman to breakfast but defended her honor in the
face of two jerks. I am extremely proud of this. I am happy that I have a plus
sized sister who is confident in her own skin and lives during a time where it
is acceptable for a large woman to walk down the street of her tall, slim
boyfriend with minimal glares. I guess my question remains “Why only the
extremes?” In the media we either see the skinny chick or the fat chick. When
are the ones who fall just short of one of the categories going to be shown?
And when are we going to realize that people come in all different sizes,
colors, and shapes and should not be forced to squeeze into molds in which we
simply do not belong?
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